I would say that it was said more in a tongue in cheek warning tone than proactive advice, but myself and a few of my sister's kids do play on the homecoming servers., which all things considered I like the admin team here over larger MMOs just because they are invested into the community and that does show in the little things.
But for the first part of my statement is a nod to the rp population that thinks that pushing someone's limits are cruise control for cool (it is not) and that they are always the exception (you are not) I've generally found that regardless of the game or setting that if you indicate that you are trying to avoid something in roleplay that people will just keep finding ways to coax it to happen organically in the flow of the story. I've lost a few friends over that actually.
As far as the last part, meh, it is not something I bring up often, although if the discussion swings onto the topic it is something that I'll admit to having happened in a minimal detail sort of way, not something I like to do, but it was an issue in a community I was in due to excessive secret keeping. Now with that being said. Just because someone indicates that a thing happened, it does not mean that they are open to private creeper message out of the blue probing for details.
