Kelri Irris

My SO would argue it's Figment from Epcot, but my vote is on Stitch. He's my inner child. 😛

Well, speaking only for myself and my SO (who works at Disney and is blessedly able to stay home today), Orlando seems okay so far. Of course, I'm only judging by what things look like from our front door, but it could be a lot worse. Wish us luck in going to hunt down an IHOP we found out is open nearby!

As I read your post, my heart went out to you. This is exactly the kind of thing I would do. After 30 years of marriage, I've found out that my SO has been keeping things about what he's been feeling secret - even from himself - and I feel like a right jackass for not knowing. I...fell apart. It woke up all kinds of issues from my past relationships with men (my father is a real prize that I can tell you about in DMs) and started associating them with what he was saying/doing as he poured out all his pent up rage at me. So, it's like I'm a whole new person, afraid to say anything to upset him and micro-managing myself to death. I tried to explain how I feel and now, he's angry that I feel that way. So, I spend a lot of time crying (and throwing up, having been sick for more than a month). I want you to know that I HEAR you. I understand this act and the first step in getting past it will be owning it - which is what you're doing and I applaud you for it! I hope this helps you get closure on this incident and know that you're forgiven and cared for. ❤️

I have a character who BELIEVES she's a god. She's the creation/partner to a mage who cast a spell for protection, and he got her. So for him, and to all appearances, she is a bodyguard, but for her, she is a goddess who is protecting her "believer". The rp is fun, because of how full of crap she is and how hard she believes that she is a god. 😛

The funny thing is that I almost didn't post that joke at all, but it made my life partner laugh loud and hysterically (on a really horrible-no-good day, mind you), and I had to share it. And yes, he's a much better romantic partner than the ex. I'm glad to be rid of him too. ❤️

I'm surprised how well you just described my ex. 😛

As someone who has been rp'ing online for decades (and I am avoiding doing the math, but have been rp'ing most of my life, so estimating), I can tell you that this is not a new problem. It's one I've run into time and again. One of the selling points for the guild I was in the longest (in another game) was that part of their ooc "mission" was to help teach new rp'ers the how's and how-not-to's of good rp, because they wanted the guild name associated with good rp. And their approach was always kind and gave you the sense that you were in control BECAUSE YOU ARE. What I have found is that when problems like this come up, talking can help if you've a mind though sometimes it doesn't. As someone who has spent a lot of time going through the "growing pains" of online rp, I can tell you that the best thing to do is what makes YOU comfortable. A lot of folks have some great advice in these situations, and if they're someone you trust, you can try their suggestions or not, based on what YOU feel comfortable with. Going on 50 years of life, however, I can tell you that is the only way you can find something that works - make sure it works for YOU. I can tell you how I deal with this problem when it comes up, but that may not fit who YOU are. And that's who has to be happy with the solution. YMMV

I realize this thread was meant to be closed, but I kept thinking as I read it something along the lines of: Why would anyone want to make a group accept them? Why would anyone who gets rejected from a group want to make them allow them to be a member? I personally wouldn't want to be in a group that was forced to accept folks that they didn't want. To me, RP is a group project. I really don't see the group working together if they have to accept folks who know they would have been rejected otherwise. This would be a colossal red flag for me, and I'd run away as fast as I can. It seems like wanting to make the group that rejected you take you is...well, why would one want to be in that group at all?

Well, I would do what I posted earlier. Leave them be and find my own thing to get into.

So, they're not telling you not to be there. You just don't like their rp?

Wait. Are they telling you not to be there? Because that /ignore thing works just fine. And as for vocal NPCs, I just don't put NPC dialogue in my rp tab.

No offense to anyone here, but how do you own places in game? I just...being one of those people who will just start a conversation anywhere in public, not include anyone in a private conversation taking place in public, and go find somewhere else to be if someone is where I want to be....in real life...it occurs to me that I can do all of that in real life without asking permission, so why would I need to ask permission in this situation. I mean...I've been told how to "properly" rp by other rp'ers and ignored them because my time is precious and I don't need to spend it doing everything the way I'm told. This just isn't something that makes sense to me. What you're describing is somewhat baffling. Example: Back on Live, I identified a specific building in Talos as containing my main's apartment and rp'd a party as supposedly taking place at said apartment. We didn't have folks chasing other rp'ers off the building. We just ignored anyone not in the party icly. There's this really great feature in the game where you can ignore a character near you that's trying to be part of the rp by trying to force interaction that you don't want. I used to use it all the time. Just saying, /ignore has saved my day so many times. I've been in online rp for decades. There's nothing more frustrating (and often intimidating) than someone trying to force you into rp that you never agreed to. But every time someone says the words "I have to..." or "That person made me rp this..." I just shake my head. In my experience, some folks want to "make" you rp stuff you don't want to, and - big surprise - I'm not going to make my character that person's character's "victim". So, as far as I'm concerned, if your group wants to claim a spot in game, I don't have an issue with it, because I don't have to rp with your group.

I keep "cheat sheets" for each of my characters, and one of the entries I tend to put alongside their backstory is their "theme song". I did write more - including forum stories for some - but when logging one into the game, the song would be the first song I'd play so I could get into their heads. Kelri, my main, is "Because I'm Awesome" by the Dollyrots. Just because...yeah, she's awesome. She was my main in my last game, and she was incredibly short (as short as the character creator allowed) and had blue hair. I didn't pick her as my main. My guild friends did. She just had a tendency to be seen as adorable and kind, and she ran a weekly event with a server-wide invitation to all RP'ers to go hang out. I just like the name and upbeat tempo for this song. It feels like it embodies her. Kelri's Life Partner is named Dani, and yes, I play her as well. Her song is "The Dark" by ZZ Ward. I like to think of this match as being similar to my own marriage. So, I made her beautiful (because Kel doesn't see herself that way), adored by Kelri to the point that she just can't see herself being with anyone else, and incredibly lucky the way I see myself with my LP in RL. Dani has walked through the dark in her life, and Kelri is like a bright rainbow in her life (much like my own LP is for me). The line "I'm not afraid of the dark" is something she can say now that she's met Kelri. My "once upon a time" main was Angel Timmons, a private investigator that has a 'version' in a lot of my games, starting with my first tabletop RPG. I chose "Heist" by X Ambassadors because she has a definitive mental image in my head that just....as soon as I heard this song, I knew it was about her. I decided not to make her in my last game, because of the setting, but made a tribute character of sorts in that game who grew her own personality and I made her Angel's twin when I came back to CoH. Her background involved some PTSD issues (yes, I write what I know), so she's a tough chick (basically everything I wanted to be but wasn't), and I gave her "Hit Me Like a Man" by The Pretty Reckless, because...um...yeah. I have more and put their theme songs on their in-game bios as well as on their "cheat sheets", because that song is usually the one I have in my head to tell me what personality I'm RP'ing or writing. Thank you for posting about this, because I haven't been able to write or RP in months, but I'm hoping writing this brings that side of me back around!

Finding another rp'er to interact with feels easier than finding one who wants to rp what we want to rp/how we want to rp/etc. I've found that talking things out ooc can help a lot. Also, I've found that rp communities can be a bit too big for me, so I tend to just wander and "listen" in any given rp hub (in CoH, seems like the Pocket D). I get participatory as the situation allows without regard for whether it'll be accepted or even noticed. I've learned that if I get really involved in how I write my rp and stop worrying about whether someone around me finds my rp "acceptable", even those days where I don't get a lot of interaction back, I've managed to entertain myself just fine. If none of the other rp'ers around me noticed, it mattered less. If no one wants to react to my reactions, that's fine too. It means they don't want to rp with me, so I'm cool with not rp'ing with them. I want to rp with the folks that see my attempts and want to make attempts back. If you've read anything else I've posted, it's possible you might notice that the first really great SG that I was involved with on CoH was one that I found through a forum post on the official website. I didn't read those often, just to be clear. It was one of those "Let's see what's over here" moments that led me to go to a SG gathering that was announced to/for the public. In SWTOR, I found a guild to be in by complete accident. I discovered that folks were rp'ing on fleet, was hanging out nearby to pay attention to the rp going on around me, and the guy leading the guild I ended up joining engaged -my- character. That guild made it a habit to hang out on fleet in character once a week. No plot to it. It was the night folks who worked at the IC company the guild represented could hang out and just be friendly with their co-workers. I watched that tactic draw in fantastic rp'ers. I watched it draw in some less than fantastic rp'ers too, but one of the predominant rules in that guild was to help other rp'ers be better rp'ers. All anyone had to do was ask. It was...that group became my family. I still hang out with a lot of them in a Discord server used for a private tabletop RP. I'm not saying it's always that easy to find rp to participate in, but I'm saying that being a willing participant can take us a lot farther if we're willing to put in the effort. And there's no guarantee the effort won't be massive. I haven't been able to rp in months due to RL issues, and it's killing me. I have lost track of the few folks I had been rp'ing with, and my anxiety gets in the way of rp'ing at events or even the Pocket D some days. I don't have the effort it takes to just make a small connection and I can't seem to write at all (even projects I have elsewhere). I also recognize that if there was an easy method that yielded the kind of results that putting that effort into finding someone, I'd probably try that, but I can be realistic enough to understand that not every attempt is going to yield success, especially in finding something of value that is worth my time. I can be patient.

I'm sorry I can't make it, but I hope it goes really well!