Kelri Irris

To address a question that has come up: No, his mother didn't have anything to leave when she passed because she had cleared out her 401k and gone into a lot of debt, and whenever one of her kids needed help, she would go into debt to help them so we were informed there is nothing left to inherit once her things are liquidated.

https://www.facebook.com/share/p/16skAsefPr/ This is a post to our FB post about the ways to help.

My SO and I are in deep trouble. We've got to come up with the rent by the first or, until we resolve it, they want 100 bucks a day starting on the second and will not accept more rent (for the following month) as it builds daily until it is all paid. We learned this firsthand last month when we had the money for the rent on the 4th, they made it clear that when we pay the next month, they want that 300 dollars first, then the rent, or the charges start again. This wouldn't be an issue at all, but this has been the year from hell. It started out with SO (the only one of us that can work - I have an untreated chronic pain issue and PTSD Anxiety from 20 years of abuse) having pain that kept him from working. For a month or so, his mom helped while he couldn't collect paychecks, to help us keep our rent paid. So, of course, a few months later, she passed away. About a month before Mother's Day. Then, a few months ago, the car broke down and will cost around a grand to fix, and we can't pay for that either, so he's trying buses to avoid Uber when his hours allow. And then, his teeth became infected and his infection and subsequent extraction of THREE of his teeth killed any chance for him to work for another week. We have 200 bucks. Even with him going to work all week this week, the last remaining paycheck before our rent will not cover it. Do we have food? No. Do we feel guilty everytime we break down and run up to Walgreens to get a muffin or box of popcorn for when we are hungry, because shopping would take more money than that? Yes. Please help in any way you can - either share this link or drop a couple of bucks in so that maybe, we can at least figure out how to get our things out if we can't stay. Thank you.

Honestly, I think you're doing the right thing in talking about it. At 52yo, I can quite honestly tell you that what you're going through is not only normal, but doesn't mean you're not doing anything right. As you get to know yourself better in your life, you'll find that there are situations that are not your job to fix and weren't caused by you to begin with (I know my brain demons have yelled these things at me), and what I've found works in that it makes ME feel better about the situation that is entirely out of my control/influence/etc. Just focusing on me and what I wanted to get out of it, I changed the way I approached RP in "public" spaces so that other "unknown/insecure" folks might see that this is a person that is approachable, and maybe it leads somewhere, maybe it doesn't, but at least it gave them an option that could potentially make me a new friend. I just kind of got into that mindset of writing my character with that in mind - making them approachable to someone with my insecurities. It helped some. Helped me a lot. Hope you find a way forward that makes YOU feel good. 🙂

My SO would argue it's Figment from Epcot, but my vote is on Stitch. He's my inner child. 😛

Well, speaking only for myself and my SO (who works at Disney and is blessedly able to stay home today), Orlando seems okay so far. Of course, I'm only judging by what things look like from our front door, but it could be a lot worse. Wish us luck in going to hunt down an IHOP we found out is open nearby!

As I read your post, my heart went out to you. This is exactly the kind of thing I would do. After 30 years of marriage, I've found out that my SO has been keeping things about what he's been feeling secret - even from himself - and I feel like a right jackass for not knowing. I...fell apart. It woke up all kinds of issues from my past relationships with men (my father is a real prize that I can tell you about in DMs) and started associating them with what he was saying/doing as he poured out all his pent up rage at me. So, it's like I'm a whole new person, afraid to say anything to upset him and micro-managing myself to death. I tried to explain how I feel and now, he's angry that I feel that way. So, I spend a lot of time crying (and throwing up, having been sick for more than a month). I want you to know that I HEAR you. I understand this act and the first step in getting past it will be owning it - which is what you're doing and I applaud you for it! I hope this helps you get closure on this incident and know that you're forgiven and cared for. ❤️

I have a character who BELIEVES she's a god. She's the creation/partner to a mage who cast a spell for protection, and he got her. So for him, and to all appearances, she is a bodyguard, but for her, she is a goddess who is protecting her "believer". The rp is fun, because of how full of crap she is and how hard she believes that she is a god. 😛

The funny thing is that I almost didn't post that joke at all, but it made my life partner laugh loud and hysterically (on a really horrible-no-good day, mind you), and I had to share it. And yes, he's a much better romantic partner than the ex. I'm glad to be rid of him too. ❤️

I'm surprised how well you just described my ex. 😛

As someone who has been rp'ing online for decades (and I am avoiding doing the math, but have been rp'ing most of my life, so estimating), I can tell you that this is not a new problem. It's one I've run into time and again. One of the selling points for the guild I was in the longest (in another game) was that part of their ooc "mission" was to help teach new rp'ers the how's and how-not-to's of good rp, because they wanted the guild name associated with good rp. And their approach was always kind and gave you the sense that you were in control BECAUSE YOU ARE. What I have found is that when problems like this come up, talking can help if you've a mind though sometimes it doesn't. As someone who has spent a lot of time going through the "growing pains" of online rp, I can tell you that the best thing to do is what makes YOU comfortable. A lot of folks have some great advice in these situations, and if they're someone you trust, you can try their suggestions or not, based on what YOU feel comfortable with. Going on 50 years of life, however, I can tell you that is the only way you can find something that works - make sure it works for YOU. I can tell you how I deal with this problem when it comes up, but that may not fit who YOU are. And that's who has to be happy with the solution. YMMV

I realize this thread was meant to be closed, but I kept thinking as I read it something along the lines of: Why would anyone want to make a group accept them? Why would anyone who gets rejected from a group want to make them allow them to be a member? I personally wouldn't want to be in a group that was forced to accept folks that they didn't want. To me, RP is a group project. I really don't see the group working together if they have to accept folks who know they would have been rejected otherwise. This would be a colossal red flag for me, and I'd run away as fast as I can. It seems like wanting to make the group that rejected you take you is...well, why would one want to be in that group at all?

Well, I would do what I posted earlier. Leave them be and find my own thing to get into.

So, they're not telling you not to be there. You just don't like their rp?

Wait. Are they telling you not to be there? Because that /ignore thing works just fine. And as for vocal NPCs, I just don't put NPC dialogue in my rp tab.