I had been told for the better part of a decade across five separate MMOs by gatekeepers and 'pillars of the community' that 'people don't really want social RP/slice of life RP/relationship RP, the majority really want XYZ but you don't see it because it's behind the closed doors of a permanent group.'
At this point I've accepted that was garbage, and yes, actually that really is what most people want. With a long term partner/tripod/harem/whatever. People don't want 'plots,' they don't want adventure or intrigue or mystery, they want to hang out somewhere as an idealized version of themselves and talk about the same damn things they talk about in real life and be affirmed and validated (especially if they do not receive that in 'real life'). Because even behind those closed doors, I found that's what people wanted.
And that's fine. It's what people want. Just not really what I wanted or am proficient at. And that's just how it is.
So I've lowered my expectations to something more healthy, and try to be happy with what I get as a roleplayer rather than keep chasing something I've built up in my head that doesn't match up with reality.