none of my friends group will feel slighted if the character/player does not get a memorial, they wouldn't have wanted us to feel badly about it. and they were modest enough that they probably didn't think they warranted one
but all the stories and reaching out we got back from people playing the game day to day made us just huddle up and be like "well... should we ask?"
and we all felt there wasn't any harm in asking. if it happened it happened, if it didn't it didn't. we just wanted some way to share them back to the community
i knew a good number of the memorial NPCs, i was most familiar with a couple virtue reps, and i found out they passed via the NPCs. it felt like a punch to the gut but i was glad to have the closure and knowledge. i think i might've actually helped with the Ascendant one? I remember vaguely that the Titans forums were like "does anyone have Ascendant's costume file" and I went and found it on virtueverse, repaired the costume file, and uploaded it.
anyway, just. i get it but this all still feels real raw to me so i don't have a good alternative suggestion. the generic tombstone monument kinda sucks. this is a game of creativity and passion behind each character we use as our mainstay for some, and every character we make for others. i'd much rather have custom NPC support to set up our own little memorials in sg bases.