Whether intentional or not, your posts are riddled with loaded language, most often subjective. In other words you're doing the exact thing you're accusing others of. Which makes them react. Which makes you react. Which makes them react. And around and around we go. I have no idea if that's cognitive dissonance, tribalism, or FUD, but it does explain the stronger reactions to your posts.
As for your substantive arguments, when I realized City of Heroes was playable, I had two choices(that I knew of). So, the first thing I did was check out the forums. I chose the Homecoming team because they seemed more organized, had clear goals, advocated a PG-13 atmosphere, and wasn't motivated by greed. It was an easy choice for me. Would I like new power choices? Sure! But it's not a priority for me. I have 40 Alts and still have sets I haven't tried. Stability is more important to me. An active Dev team with clear and stated goals is more important to me. If every shard had the same priorities, then I could see shared changes. Call it ego if you will, but the HC team is under no obligation to share anything with anyone, and I'm ok with that. If that makes me a lemming in your eyes, then so be it.