Why so serious?

[Octogoat]

We play a campy game where we run around in our underwear while playing in our pajamas knocking out cartoon bad guys. What gets under your skin so much? Why argue till a thread gets locked? In other words, what subjects do you find worth fighting for and objectively why?

 

There's a thing in psychology called somatic thinking and I think it's a good tool to use before engaging in an forum argument. I have worksheets upon request.

[arcane]

I don’t think CoH topics themselves get under anyone’s skin. I think bad faith, ulterior motives, persistent ad hominem sniping, logical fallacies, brazen lies, etc tend to be the things that do that.

[Maelwys]

 

 

Edited Sunday at 04:14 PM by Maelwys

[The Trouble]

If I find myself frustrated by the behavior in a thread, I stop reading it.

 

Which stinks because some opposing opinions are stated so well that I find great interest in their reasoning.  Then some folks show up with thoughts on this game so strong that they fire off posts with the heat of religious rage, and every attempt at actual discussion gets ruined.

[Snarky]

1 minute ago, The Trouble said:

Then some folks show up with thoughts on this game so strong that they fire off posts with the heat of religious rage, and every attempt at actual discussion gets ruined.

[battlewraith]

People have been fighting on the coh forums since they were a thing.  I think it was worse on live than on Homecoming. 

Remember that the guy who ran the secret server after shutdown got doxxed and received death threats when word got out -- over a game. 

[Troo]

 

  -vs-

 

It's troo discussion often gets stifled by trollery.. some feel trollery can be entertaining, even the GMs like it to a point, and sometimes folks simply can't help themselves.

 

Edited Sunday at 06:55 PM by Troo

[Scarlet Shocker]

22 minutes ago, Troo said:

 

It's troo discussion often gets stifled by trollery.. some feel trollery can be entertaining, even the GMs like it to a point, and sometimes folks simply can't help themselves.

 

 

 

When it gets very trollery...

 

[Octogoat]

39 minutes ago, Troo said:

 

  -vs-

 

It's troo discussion often gets stifled by trollery.. some feel trollery can be entertaining, even the GMs like it to a point, and sometimes folks simply can't help themselves.

 

There's two types of trolls to my mind. Those that take the piss out of a serious argument in an attempt to diffuse it and lighten the mood, and those that fan the flames and drive a further wedge between players.

[Forager]

Just to be clear, you're asking about the pedantic and antisocial behavior... in an online forum... for a 20 year old game... about super heroes.

 

Come on, man. You know why.

[skoryy]

4 hours ago, Octogoat said:

We play a campy game where we run around in our underwear while playing in our pajamas knocking out cartoon bad guys. What gets under your skin so much? Why argue till a thread gets locked? In other words, what subjects do you find worth fighting for and objectively why?

 

There's a thing in psychology called somatic thinking and I think it's a good tool to use before engaging in an forum argument. I have worksheets upon request.

 

None, really, I'm too old to yell at people being wrong online. I poke holes in arguments, then throw 'em on the ignore list if they still don't get it.

[Octogoat]

2 minutes ago, Forager said:

Just to be clear, you're asking about the pedantic and antisocial behavior... in an online forum... for a 20 year old game... about super heroes.

 

Come on, man. You know why.

Incorrect, I really don't know why as the majority of the population is literally too old for drama lol

[Seed22]

5 minutes ago, Octogoat said:

Incorrect, I really don't know why as the majority of the population is literally too old for drama lol

...You're trying to do the same thing now with this thread to an extent.

 

I mean what do you expect for an answer? 

 

Sometimes threads get locked even when discussions are civil. Stuff happens 🤷

 

Sometimes some people just derive joy from being asses in a thread. Usually arguing against a point isnt a problem, but it's when people argue against each other instead of the main point of whatever thread topic is being discussed.

Edited Sunday at 07:56 PM by Seed22

[Octogoat]

4 minutes ago, Seed22 said:

...You're trying to do the same thing now with this thread to an extent.

 

I mean what do you expect for an answer? 

 

Sometimes threads get locked even when discussions are civil. Stuff happens 🤷

 

Sometimes some people just derive joy from being asses in a thread. Usually arguing against a point isnt a problem, but it's when people argue against each other instead of the main point of whatever thread topic is being discussed.

You raise some good points. I just enjoy our community and when I see a thread where people are getting nasty it gives me the sads. But all I can offer is advice for avoiding confrontation and making oneself heard without aggression. But that depends on the person listening.

[Seed22]

1 minute ago, Octogoat said:

You raise some good points. I just enjoy our community and when I see a thread where people are getting nasty it gives me the sads. But all I can offer is advice for avoiding confrontation and making oneself heard without aggression. But that depends on the person listening.

As RL picks up over where I am, I most certainly wont be paying attention to any threads in CoH/any asinine back n forth that can take place a lot in threads. 

 

Thats really about the only advice I'd give. Trying to alter people's behavior online is well...not great.

[Forager]

Just now, Octogoat said:

Incorrect, I really don't know why as the majority of the population is literally too old for drama lol

 

Ooph... ok so if that's true, I don't know of a polite or gentle way to remind someone that they are projecting.

 

You've assigned your own opinion to the majority, and then cited that as the reason you can't understand a group that doesn't share it. That's going to make understanding people difficult.

 

That's all on your end though. You sort that out and you'll likely be able to understand people who are different for all kinds of reasons, not just the people here. 

 

[Snarky]

The Giant Spaghetti Monster will gladly help you all come together and be at peace, in the sauce of life. 
 

Ramen.

Edited Sunday at 08:33 PM by Snarky

[Spaghetti Betty]

34 minutes ago, Snarky said:

The Giant Spaghetti Monster

 

You rang?

[Go0gleplex]

So many people just want to prove to others that THEY are RIGHT that they don't realize the ones that want to have an actual constructive conversation about something have LEFT. 

 

Many of my responses are said with tongue firmly in cheek... 😉 One thing I've learned over six decades of life is that very little of what goes on or is said is actually important enough to matter in the grand scope of the cosmos...though for each individual's small world such things might seem like the totality of their existence; it's all a difference of perspective and the emotion attached to personal value. 

 

The dark side is still not giving up its cookies though... :P 

[ivanhedgehog]

7 hours ago, Octogoat said:

We play a campy game where we run around in our underwear while playing in our pajamas knocking out cartoon bad guys. What gets under your skin so much? Why argue till a thread gets locked? In other words, what subjects do you find worth fighting for and objectively why?

 

There's a thing in psychology called somatic thinking and I think it's a good tool to use before engaging in an forum argument. I have worksheets upon request.

People still insist that pineapple on pizza is acceptable. This is an abomination that cannot be tolerated!

[lemming]

1 hour ago, ivanhedgehog said:

People still insist that pineapple on pizza is acceptable. This is an abomination that cannot be tolerated!

Let people like what they want.   As long as they aren't forcing it on you, then it's not an issue

[Ukase]

What gets under my skin on a given day varies with the amount of sleep and coffee I've recently had. Some days, I want to reach through my monitor and smack people. There have been a couple of times, if I'd been able to do so, (once in retail, once since HC opened) I'd probably have been arrested for assault. I can't even articulate what they did that made me so mad, but I remember the rage. They just pushed the right buttons to get me pissed. 

Now, annoyed - that's happens a lot. But it happens so often, I don't really even notice it anymore. I've typed out so many "Are you serious?" And "Who cares about this?" posts, and deleted them, or worse, posted them, then hid them a minute later, realizing what a jerk I was. I'd like to think I've improved. I haven't had a GM tell me to chill for over a year. 

[Snarky]

1 hour ago, Ukase said:

I haven't had a GM tell me to chill for over a year. 

you had a GM tell you to chill for a year?

[Troo]

2 hours ago, Ukase said:

I can't even articulate what they did that made me so mad, but I remember the rage.

 

8 hours ago, Troo said:

 

[Scarlet Shocker]

5 hours ago, Troo said:

 

 

 

So this one gets filed as "Inarticulate rage"

 

Right. Got it. Ok.