Seems pretty active, there's usually people running TFs, mish teams, etc. There is that kinda stuff on LFG but I don't think I'd say it's full of it all day, sometimes more than other times.
I feel like you should find a mentor to help you out if you are just having issues with how to play the game
If you are truly getting depressed from playing this game I would suggest doing playing and seeking someone out to talk to. If you have a friend you could talk to them or a professional. If you are depressed please seek help (I'm not saying this in a mean way btw)
Best of luck.
Was it a hard drive failure? If not you could pull it and save your live CoH (and I guess other stuff 😉) Mine died a while back and I was able to access the files from it. I got an HP gaming system too, and the no CD drive threw me for a loop. Also it didn't have a second connection for dual monitors, but it turned out I didn't need it. I've had no issues with it running the game.
I don't Respec a lot, but when I do I take screenshots of my enh setup to make it easier, maybe the same would help for you. I think that your idea would be great but not sure how easy it would be at this point. Maybe they could make it where respecs leave macros where they are, that might be easier.
My toon UdderNonsense is a Milk blast/Nin. I took nin cause I HAD to have a milksword (I tinted the fire & Ice sword white) It's actually a pretty fun combo! Moojitsu!™️ Is her battlecry. 😁