At this point, let's agree to disagree.
It's none of those things you've said here as I've explained already - repeatedly - no matter what words you try to interject into it. If you like, I can provide some examples of what a non-helpful, non empathetic and dismissive response is. You seem to be going to great lengths to try and jump through a myriad of hoops to try and add some contrary, negative meanings to my intent. I can assure you, you're way, way, way off base. You're not even remotely close. What you and others are failing to understand is your reaction is part of the issue for you.
As I explained, not letting it bother you is something that can be learned over time and assuming the person wants to try. If they don't want to or simply can't do it no matter what, more power to them. I also stated this works for me, works for most people I know and is perhaps something someone may want to try and see if it works for them. If it doesn't then no harm, no foul. Never once did I say what works for me is an incontrovertible, irrefutable, absolute truth for everyone. That's just plain nonsense. It's simple advice for something to try. That's all.
It's just a suggestion for something to try to help another person feel better. If you feel it is dismissive, non empathetic or whatever, then so bet it. Just understand that isn't the intent. At all.