Look.... sigh. Changing an organization's policy on something as serious as this (any organization) would be difficult. I have watched (and Snarked at) the HC Crew for 5? years. To me, my opinion, the HC Crew works steadily, slowly, and tries to only put out stuff that is high quality and "right" There is NO WAY any number of posts, rabid, flaming, deliberate, concise, beautiful, or even genius will get the current HC staff to rush to some conclusion. Or even tip their hand about where they are going. My opinion.
As far as the uncivil conversation. Sigh, it is the internet. I have tried (and probably failed) to address "grief posts" with respect when I encounter them. Not everyone on the planet even understands the depth of grief some folks feel. Some dont give a crap. And that is...hear me out... okay. Yes, we have to make room (a little) for people who cannot or will not "act respectfully" Maybe not a ton of room, but there is usually a gutter right beside old beautiful main street. Yes, it is definitely okay to call out rudeness. But do not swing too far in the other direction OR (very important) let the people starting a food fight interrupt the folks trying to plan memorial services.