I use weave to avoid the whole trying to get mindlink perma problem.
 
	 
 
	Widows can softcap without it, the flexibility in their builds is impressive. 
 
	 
 
	I would have agreed about tough in the old days, but now that you can build a lot of resist with IOs you can hit about 50%  S/L with tough on a widow.
 
	 
 
	Considering most def debuffs that hit you are lethal damage,  i find it meshes well into the overall scheme.  
 
	 
 
	 
 
	I do, however, never get aid self, which a lot of people seem to like.  A lot of whqt you would/can do with an SR also works with widows.